Compare with your partner
The inventory measures your experience of closeness toward one person. Their experience toward you may differ. Comparing two scores is a feature of this site, not a mistake in the math.
Why both people should take it
Closeness is subjective. One partner might list every shared chore and meal; the other might remember the same week as “we were both busy.” One might feel strongly influenced; the other might value independence and rate influence lower even in a solid relationship. Two scores reveal perception gaps that a single score hides.
How to compare numbers
Each person completes the test separately, using the same relationship in mind but entering their own name as “my name” and the other person as “their name.” After both finish:
- Average the two percentages if you want one shared figure on the original 10-point tradition (for example, 72% and 80% → 76%).
- Add them if you like the pop-culture “out of 20” framing mentioned on the homepage.
- Discuss the gap if one score is much higher — that difference is often more interesting than the average.
What not to treat as a verdict
A lower score is not proof that someone does not care. A higher score is not proof that the relationship is healthy or should continue. The test does not measure abuse, trust breaches, or compatibility on values — only interconnectedness as you report it this week.
Avoid using the result in arguments (“you only scored 45%”). Use it to ask curious questions (“I rated future plans high — does that match how you see us?”).
Sharing results
Each completion gets its own link. Share your link when you are comfortable with others seeing the names and score on that page. Your partner’s link is theirs to share. You can also read scores together on one device without posting publicly.
When scores stay far apart
Large gaps sometimes mean different definitions of closeness, different recall of the past week, or real asymmetry in commitment. If the conversation gets stuck or the relationship feels unsafe, a quiz will not fix that — consider speaking with a counselor or trusted support person.